This free four-page worksheet helps couples identify the pattern beneath repeated arguments. Use it to map the pursue-withdraw cycle, recognize each partner’s protective response, choose an earlier interruption point, and reflect before the next conflict.

What the worksheet covers:

• The visible topic of the argument

• The need or fear beneath the topic

• Each partner’s protective response

• The point where escalation begins

• A possible earlier interruption

• Reflection questions for the next conversation