I used to think that I am the only one struggling to make decisions. Looking for a way out or getting others involved to make it easy on myself was always my go-to option. But I finally realized that I am not the only one dealing with this conflict.
We are not alone. We all have to make decisions at times that we are not proud of or don’t like. Anything from work, family, school, or even what to eat are just a few examples. But it is time for us to take stand for what we believe and do what makes sense to us, not others’ forget about luck and focus on what matters.
This is where the paradox of choice comes into play.
A fantastic book by Barry Schwartz Focus on what makes us happy. We are finding ways to do what gives meaning to our life without eliminating our desires.
The paradox argues that by eliminating our choices, we can significantly reduce our anxieties and creating a mindset to make better decisions.
Using our brain
When making decisions, try to use your brain. Well, we all do, but this time try using both sides. Our brain is divide into two sides, the right hemisphere and the left.
Right Hemisphere is Responsible for control of the left side of our body and is the creative side of the brain
However, the left hemisphere is in charge of the right side of the body, and it is the logical side of the brain.
Both our decision-making and idea-generating processes start in our left prefrontal cortex. But if there isn’t enough emotion behind these processes, the part of your brain called the nucleus accumbens, or NAc will not activate. If the NAc isn’t activated, dopamine (the feel-good neurotransmitter that recognizes reward) won’t be released into our body, and we will likely remain unmotivated, making each Decision a burden. And decisions made from the comfort zone rarely end up benefiting you in the long run.
Make every Decision yours
So use them both to see what feels right and will benefit you, not others. Make the Decision that you want, not others, and always love every step of it. Because no matter what you say or do every Decision that you make is what makes who you are.