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How to overcome fear in life

Fear can make strong signals of response when we are facing an emergency – for example, if we are being attacked or caught in a fire. Have you ever missed an opportunity, or failed to do something because of fear? Unless you are superhuman, the answer is probably a clear yes. Whether it is our fear of failure, embarrassment, worry, or even success, fear can most definitely stop us from doing what we love.

But this should not be it. We are much stronger than our minds, and we can definitely change our perception by reorganizing our priorities. Whether it is going back to school, giving a big speech, or telling someone you love them, life can at times be scary. We need to realize that it is natural to be nervous and feel our heart beating faster, hands getting sweaty right before an important event. But it is even beneficial in small doses because it prepares us for peak performance by making us alert and focused. However, if you are controlled by your fears and can’t stop shaking the thought of what will come from your actions, it is time to learn how to regulate your nerves and confront your fears!

THE BOOMERANG EFFECT OF FEAR

What fear and anxiety feel and look like?

When you feel anxious or frightened, your mind and body can work very quickly. For that these are some of the things that might happen:

  • The heart beats very fast – maybe it feels irregular
  • Breathing is faster
  • Muscles feel weak
  • Sweating a lot
  • The stomach churns, or your bowels feel loose
  • Hard to concentrate on anything else
  • Feeling dizzy
  • Feeling frozen to the spot
  • Can’t eat
  • Overeating
  • Having hot and cold sweats
  • Getting a dry mouth
  • Getting very tense muscles

Here are six tips to eliminate fears from your life!

  1. Take Responsibility

    The only way to correctly face your fears is by first deciding to take full control of your life and everything in it! Your fears will not control you; you let them control you. As long as we act like a victim and make excuses, nothing will change.

  2. Action Destroys Fear

    While our inaction encourages fears, taking action will cure it. Can you think of the first time you drove a car or rode a bike? The odds are that you experienced fear at its finest. You knew intellectually that you would not die but still scary. The same principle exists for facing any fear. The sooner we start, the easier it will get to overcome it! Whenever you are aware of your fears, face them immediately. Do not wait and deal with it today!

  3. The Disaster Report

    Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can happen, realistically?” and discover the worst potential consequence and decide to accept it or find ways to manage it. Normally, it doesn't happen anyways. And even if it does, you have prepared for it.

  4. Power Posing

    Now, the most expeditious method to suppress your fears is this: A shift in your own physiology. In 2010, Amy Cuddy, a Harvard Business School Psychologist, recognized for her Ted Talk on “Power Posing” led research that exhibited how we stand truly determines how you feel. By standing up-right in an “open and expansive” posture, you can change our hormonal levels in a positive way.

  5. Act as if it is done 

    This strategy is simple, known as “fake it till you make it” this is often seen as negative, despite its positive effects. There is zero shame in acknowledging that we are not perfect. Remember that sometimes, it is good to ac as if you are already who you want to be, and have what you want to have to change the way you think and act in your life, leading to better results.

  6. Visualize Your Success

    Close your eyes, just visualize yourself, crush your fears, overcome all obstacles, and do the things you are afraid of and become what you love and want in life. See yourself succeeding at everything you do, with no limits!

Tools
  • Emergency Medical Services—911
    If your situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate assistance by calling 911, 24 hours a day.
  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or Live Online Chat
    If you or someone you know is suicidal or in emotional distress, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
    Available to talk 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
  • SAMHSA Treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727)
    Get general information on mental health and locate treatment services in your area. Speak to a live person, Monday through Friday from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. EST.

How do I know if I need help?

Every now and then, fear and anxiety can affect all of us. But only when it is severe and has a long-lasting effect doctor classifies it as a mental health problem for us. If you feel anxious most of the time for many weeks, or if you feel like your fears are taking over, then it is a good idea to ask for help. The same is also true if the problem is causing you difficulty in your daily life or experiencing panic attacks.

“Don’t be afraid of your fears. They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it.” 

― C. JoyBell C.

Final Words…

These are some of the manageable ways of overcoming your fears. By practicing these habits from time-to-time, you are allowing yourself to hold a brave face against your fears. Remember, you are the best judge and advocate. Rather than going downhill and allowing your guards down, you can practice these manageable points and take yourself to a total state of conquering your fears. We all possess an inner fear to overcome; tell us what works for you to subside your fear and get ahead in your life. Please feel free to comment below and share your success story with us.

So how do you get over your inner fear? Share your thoughts in the comments section below 🙂